Thursday, March 18, 2010

"Face It"

There's an article in The New York Times today about a new book called "Face It" - a guide for women struggling with aging in a society obsessed with staying young.

After I read it, I realized perhaps I am a bit premature in my worrying about growing and looking older...most of the women mentioned in this article, including the authors, are in their 50s. My one gray hair, handful of wrinkles, and slightly sagging boobs seemed minor in comparison.

But it did raise a larger concern for me about the importance of appearance in society and how, despite how far women have come, looks are still a huge part of our "currency and power." That really is depressing and frustrating.

And I began to wonder why, despite knowing it shouldn't matter to me, I feel such tremendous pressure to stay young and look as close to perfect as I can?

I know I have about a million other things I should be worrying about...yet, for now, this is what I'm focusing on.

It will change, I'm sure. But, 40 is coming in a little over 5 months...and, I guess, I'm just going to have to face it.

Wednesday, March 17, 2010

First Gray Hair

Let it be noted that on this day, March 17, 2010, a gray hair was found on the right side of my head. It was curly and coarse and rather ugly. I tried pulling it out, but that stubborn eye-sore refused to budge. I can almost hear it laughing at me: "ha! you think you can run away from this turning 40 thing, but you can't."

Well, fine. You win this time, gray hair. But I'm not giving up yet.


Thursday, March 4, 2010

Restaurant Review: My lunch at The Breslin Bar and Dining Room

Everyone knows I am a self-professed “foodie” who loves checking out the newest restaurants, out of the way coffee bars, and best gourmet markets. During my 20’s and early 30’s, I was practically a walking Zagat guide): always up to date on which chef was cooking where and the go to source for my friends and family for the perfect suggestion of where to dine.

And then it happened. I had two kids and all that changed. Well, sort of.

Part of my job is taking editors out to eat at some of the most fabulous places in town. But, these days I’m also on the lookout for great, kid-friendly spots to introduce (hopefully convert) my kids to the joys of fine dining. When the two converge, it’s a huge personal victory. But, usually they don’t. Which brings me to my recent editor lunch at The Breslin Bar and Dining Room.

The Breslin Bar and Dining Room, which opened in mid-October, is located in the Ace Hotel at 20 West 29th Street. They don’t take reservations, which already was a red flag for me. With or without kids, I hate to wait for a table. To avoid the lunchtime crowds, we arrived at 12:15pm. Although the place was at least half empty, they wouldn’t let us sit down. They said it would be a few minutes and did we want to wait in the bar area? Well, it would have been fine to wait there, except there was not just one but two photo shoots going on, so we ended up standing in the corner until our table was ready. Now, if I had been there with my kids, we’d already be out the door and looking for the nearest Cosi or pizza place.

We finally sat down about seven minutes later, and overall, it was worth the wait. The room is very welcoming, with an old-fashioned, speak-easy vibe that I really liked. The menu is short, but well edited, though I wasn’t sure why three items out of twenty-three had Anchovy dressing. (Second red flag – no kid under the age of 8 likes anything with anchovies). I was also bummed because the one dish I was really looking forward to trying, Pork Scratchings, wasn’t available that day. My oven baked three-cheese sandwich with house-smoked ham and pickles was delicious, though not “life-altering” as my dining companion had promised. She had the Char grilled beef tongue sandwich with lentil soup. She raved about the beef, but I declined a bite, and opted to try her soup, which was fantastic. We also shared (though I ate most of it) the roasted pumpkin with pomegranates. The portions are extremely generous, so neither of us had room for dessert.

Overall, it was a fun (in a grown up kind of way) place to go for a hearty winter lunch. But, would I go back with my kids? Probably not.

Tuesday, March 2, 2010

Countdown to 40: First, the Face

My Countdown to 40 Project officially started a few weeks ago when I treated myself to a facial with my favorite L.E. (licensed esthetician), Jordana. She works in the office of a fancy Park Avenue plastic surgeon, Dr. Adam R. Kolker, but she's really down-to-earth, sweet and amazing at her job!

I knew she would tell me the truth, so before our session got started I asked what she thought about the condition of my skin.

"Your face looks good...not too much sun damage and it looks like you're taking good care of it." For a very brief moment, I felt relieved. Maybe all of this aging stuff was in my head.

"But, you could try a little Botox - just between your eyes and in your crow's feet. It will just make you look more...rested." Um, yeah, that might work. So, would sleeping more than five hours a night! But, anyhoo...

"And, maybe we could put a little Juvederm or Restylane in your laugh lines to just smooth them out a bit." So it turns out my skin is punishing me for laughing too much these past 39 years? Jeez.

Needless to say, I was bummed. But, also determined to do whatever I need to do to avoid these procedures for as long as I could.

Retinols seemed like a good first step, and Jordana provided me with a very thorough list of well-regarded OTC ones to try:


I decided to give Roc multicorrection night treatment a whirl. I will let you know how that goes!